Well… of course. Following your own logic, being told “fuck you,” you are not worthy of my time, IS in fact demeaning and bruising to anyone, and in this case particularly to impressionable and inexperienced young men who yearn for companionship (and I dare say to young women who yearn for the same). I’m constantly astounded by how moder…
Well… of course. Following your own logic, being told “fuck you,” you are not worthy of my time, IS in fact demeaning and bruising to anyone, and in this case particularly to impressionable and inexperienced young men who yearn for companionship (and I dare say to young women who yearn for the same). I’m constantly astounded by how modern liberal discourse - despite talking a good game about gender equality - seems to assume we boys don’t have feelings, or hearts, or emotions like the girls do. There is a way to communicate lack of interest with grace and compassion - and of course, men ought to communicate romantic or sexual interest in a courteous, unthreatening way as well. Also men must learn how to clock, instinctively, when there is no interest - though I regret to say, from experience, that takes years to develop. As you’re a grandmother, I’d be curious to hear if you remember a time where social norms and practices around courtship were (perhaps) a little healthier - less inflamed and polarized by social media, less fear and loathing, less “fuck you” (no, fuck YOU)”. Though your last section seems to hint you don’t have good memories of those days, either.
Well… of course. Following your own logic, being told “fuck you,” you are not worthy of my time, IS in fact demeaning and bruising to anyone, and in this case particularly to impressionable and inexperienced young men who yearn for companionship (and I dare say to young women who yearn for the same). I’m constantly astounded by how modern liberal discourse - despite talking a good game about gender equality - seems to assume we boys don’t have feelings, or hearts, or emotions like the girls do. There is a way to communicate lack of interest with grace and compassion - and of course, men ought to communicate romantic or sexual interest in a courteous, unthreatening way as well. Also men must learn how to clock, instinctively, when there is no interest - though I regret to say, from experience, that takes years to develop. As you’re a grandmother, I’d be curious to hear if you remember a time where social norms and practices around courtship were (perhaps) a little healthier - less inflamed and polarized by social media, less fear and loathing, less “fuck you” (no, fuck YOU)”. Though your last section seems to hint you don’t have good memories of those days, either.