I struggle with this. Women have put up with so much shit. We’ve worked our asses off. Now for what is about 30 seconds in human history guys need to compete and they are crumbling. The best part of me says, “Oh. I don’t want anyone to hurt. Let’s work this out.” Another part says, “Quit taking your shit out on women. Step up and compete…
I struggle with this. Women have put up with so much shit. We’ve worked our asses off. Now for what is about 30 seconds in human history guys need to compete and they are crumbling. The best part of me says, “Oh. I don’t want anyone to hurt. Let’s work this out.” Another part says, “Quit taking your shit out on women. Step up and compete. Be better. Stop with all the talk of rape, violence, and putting women in their place. Stop trying to push them out of the workplace - especially tech - just so you can delude yourself into thinking you’re better than you are.”
I’d love us to find a way forward that doesn’t take from one group to give to another. I don’t see enough men in public forums open to that - I think because they are socialized to the alpha, win-lose, mindframe.
This has been going on for generations of American men. If Gen Z men want someone to be pissed at, they need to look at the men in their lives who taught them entitlement and varying degrees of misogyny from the ingrained casual to the outright hate-filled. We have a serious problem with men of all generations in this country. (No, not all men. The culture of men.)
The answer cannot be to make women less just to make men feel better.
Mothers of young men are a big factor, too. A few mothers of sons that I know have shared their anger at their sons being “held back” with women and minorities “taking the spots” their sons expected to have based on history vs. merit.
Another topic for the podcast: How many Millenial and Gen Z women are bisexual and choosing marriage and partnership with other women. It’s not all about looks or money, which is probably more of a male rationalization based on our culture. It’s partly because they don’t want to take on mothering or carrying these men and they’ve worked hard to be financially and emotionally independent enough not to have to.
I struggle with this. Women have put up with so much shit. We’ve worked our asses off. Now for what is about 30 seconds in human history guys need to compete and they are crumbling. The best part of me says, “Oh. I don’t want anyone to hurt. Let’s work this out.” Another part says, “Quit taking your shit out on women. Step up and compete. Be better. Stop with all the talk of rape, violence, and putting women in their place. Stop trying to push them out of the workplace - especially tech - just so you can delude yourself into thinking you’re better than you are.”
I’d love us to find a way forward that doesn’t take from one group to give to another. I don’t see enough men in public forums open to that - I think because they are socialized to the alpha, win-lose, mindframe.
This has been going on for generations of American men. If Gen Z men want someone to be pissed at, they need to look at the men in their lives who taught them entitlement and varying degrees of misogyny from the ingrained casual to the outright hate-filled. We have a serious problem with men of all generations in this country. (No, not all men. The culture of men.)
The answer cannot be to make women less just to make men feel better.
Mothers of young men are a big factor, too. A few mothers of sons that I know have shared their anger at their sons being “held back” with women and minorities “taking the spots” their sons expected to have based on history vs. merit.
Another topic for the podcast: How many Millenial and Gen Z women are bisexual and choosing marriage and partnership with other women. It’s not all about looks or money, which is probably more of a male rationalization based on our culture. It’s partly because they don’t want to take on mothering or carrying these men and they’ve worked hard to be financially and emotionally independent enough not to have to.